Inner Mothering Group for Parentified Daughters
— A 12-week virtual group for women ready to feel “enough” and set boundaries
Which Parentified Daughter are you?
A free 3-minute quiz for women who took on an emotional role as a child and want to understand where to start healing.
Many parentified daughters know it happened. Fewer can say what shape it took. As a child, you found ways to keep your family steady and yourself safe, and those ways may still be running your life today.
This quiz helps you notice yours. You’ll answer a few quick questions to see if this fits your story. At the end, you’ll see the pattern that’s strongest for you right now, the one that may be working alongside it, and a gentle place to start.
What Is a Parentified Daughter?
A parentified daughter is someone who had to take on adult responsibilities, whether emotional, physical, or logistical caretaking of a parent or siblings, often beginning in childhood, long before she was developmentally ready for that role.
For some, it meant keeping the household running or becoming the reliable one everyone leaned on. For others, it looked like managing a mother's moods or learning to be without needs.
These roles often developed in response to family circumstances: limited resources, a parent's emotional unavailability or immaturity, illness, addiction, or other challenges within the family.
What type are you?
The Overfunctioning Daughter survived by doing. If you kept everything running, no one had to fall apart. Competence became your armor.
The Good Daughter survived by being easy and impressive. Approval became the currency you traded your needs for.
The Staying Small Daughter survived by protecting herself. If you didn’t ask for much, you couldn’t be a burden.
The Difficult Daughter survived by being loud enough to be noticed. You weren’t too much. You wanted to be heard.
What you’ll get from the quiz result
The pattern that’s strongest for you right now, and the one that may be working alongside it
How it may show up in your life today
A good place to start, with one small thing to practice this week
A 10-minute art prompt, no art experience needed
These aren’t boxes. You may recognize yourself mostly in one, and it’s also common for two or more to exist side by side, depending on where you are in life. The point isn’t to label you. It’s to show you where you might start to heal.
This quiz is a self-reflection tool, not a diagnosis or a substitute for therapy.
Are you an art therapist interested in facilitating an Inner Mothering group?
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Frequently Asked Questions
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This group isn't about making good-looking art. Art-making provides a space to experiment and practice your new strategy- and myself and the group will provide you with guidance and support if you're feeling lost or stuck in the process. No art experience required, just a willingness to show up.
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It is a 20-minute conversation to make sure the group is the right fit for you, and to answer any questions before you commit.
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I do not accept insurance at this time. However, if you have out-of-network benefits, your insurance company will typically reimburse 60–80% of the session cost after you've met your deductible.
Superbills for insurance reimbursement are available upon request, sent monthly or as otherwise discussed.
I'd be happy to check your benefits for you, just have your insurance ID number ready during our intro call!
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If you have out-of-network benefits, your insurance company will typically reimburse you for 60-80% of the cost of each session after you’ve met your deductible.
I’d be happy to check your benefits for you! Just make sure to have your insurance card handy, with your Member ID, during our free intro call.
Or if you prefer, you can confirm the benefits of your health insurance plan, with your insurance provider directly. Just call the number on the back of your health insurance card listed under Member Services.You can ask them the following questions:
Do I have out-of-network outpatient mental health coverage? Am I able to use these benefits for telehealth?
What is my out-of-network deductible?
How much of my deductible has been met this year?
Do I need a referral from an in-network provider to see someone out-of-network?
What percentage of outpatient psychotherapy sessions are covered per session?
How do I submit claim forms for reimbursement?
How long does it take for me to receive reimbursement?
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Yes, I reserve a limited number of sliding-scale spots in the group, and it is first come, first served. If you don't think you can afford my full fee, please don't hesitate to contact me.
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Committing to the full 12 sessions is highly recommended. We also understand life happens. Absences due to unforeseeable circumstances are understood, and what matters most is your overall commitment to showing up for yourself and the group. If you do miss a session, there are ways to make up for the time, whether through homework or by using the 50-minute individual session with me that's included in the group.
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That's completely normal, especially if you're used to managing everyone else's comfort before your own. This group is built to be a safe, consistent container, and you're never asked to share more than feels right for you.
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Only what feels right to you, and only when you're ready. This group focuses on the pattern and how it shows up in your life now, not on retelling every detail of your history. We will also focus on practicing new strategies.
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Our bodily sensations, our interoception, shape the tone, rhythm, and quality of our behaviors. Staying small may have been a necessary childhood strategy, but shifting from staying small to taking up space can feel unfamiliar, or even lead to freezing. Art-making and expressive therapy help you attune to these sensations and gently experiment with your own art of "taking up space," deepening both insight and experience.
"Wow… I didn't realize staying small takes this much work, and how simple taking up space can be when I just let myself be."
"I didn't realize being transparent could look so interesting instead of messy."
"Taking up space feels so freeing."
You might be surprised by how different your art of staying small is from your art of taking up space.
In the Inner Mothering Group, creative reflection is a core part of the process. Each session includes one art or writing activity to help you process and express what you're learning. You don't need to be artistic. The goal isn't to create something beautiful, but to connect more deeply with yourself.
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Absolutely! Art therapy doesn’t require artistic talent. In fact, clients who may initially feel they aren’t suited for art therapy often experience powerful breakthroughs, as they can express themselves more freely without the interference of learned skills. This process can lead to insights and realizations that might be more difficult to access through talk therapy alone.
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As the group nears its end, we'll have a discussion about the option to continue as an ongoing group for the spring term. You're welcome to continue if it feels right for you, or complete the group as is.
Still have questions about the group?
You're so welcome to schedule an intro call! I'd be happy to answer your questions.